Nine Words You Should Never Use with Customers
August 7th, 2009Words have power. And while many words have the power to help you make the sale, some words have the power to sabotage it. If you want to increase your sales, here are nine words you should avoid using with prospects and customers.
1. “No”
People hate to hear no. They love to hear yes. So whenever you’re tempted to say no to someone, stop and think how you might be able to yes to their request. This is not to say you should give away the store. Rather, look for ways to make things happen instead of automatically justifying why you can’t.
2. “Can’t”
Speaking of “can’t,” this is another word that can anger and frustrate prospects and customers. Instead of dwelling on what you can’t do, focus on what you can do. Provide options and alternatives. Remember, you’re there to assist and serve your customers.
3. “Policy”
Here’s a news flash: I don’t care what your policy is. I only care about what I want and need. If you can deliver that, you’ve got me as a customer. If you quote “policy” as the reason you “can’t” do something, you’ve lost me. Probably forever. (See my article What’s More Important: Your Policies or Your Customers?)
4. “Don’t”
The human brain can only process a negative by thinking of the positive. Which means, when you tell your prospect “Don’t judge a product by price alone,” what they really hear (on a sub-conscious level) is “Judge a product by price alone.” When you say “Don’t worry,” they hear “Worry.” Tell your prospect or customer what you want them to do, not what you don’t want them to do.
5. “But”
The word “but” negates whatever came before it. (“You did a good job, but…”) Replace it with either a simple pause or the word “and.”
6. “Why”
Questions that start with “why” sound accusatory and judgmental. (“Why did you do that?” Why do you think that?” “Why is that important to you?”) As a result, they cause prospects and customers to raise their defenses. Instead, rephrase “why” questions into “what” or “how” questions. (“What caused you to do that?” “How did you come to think that?” “What’s the reason that’s important to you?”)
7. “Honestly”
Whenever you use the word “honestly,” you imply that some or all of the other things you’ve said have not been honest. Strike the word from your vocabulary. The same goes for words like “truthfully” and “frankly.”
8. Any Term of Endearment
While words like “buddy,” “pal,” “baby” and “sweetheart” are fine with your close friends, they’re not okay to use with prospects or customers (unless you know them very well and they call you by similar nicknames). You should always be polite, courteous and respectful. The best thing you can call a customer is their name.
9. Profanity
I shouldn’t even have to mention this. I’m astounded, though, how often I hear salespeople swear. If you’re looking for a sure-fire way to offend a current or potential customer, this is it. Never chance it. You’re not a stand-up comic in a nightclub. You’re a sales professional. Speak accordingly.

March 21st, 2010 at 11:36 pm
This was interesting and worth sharing with many, though we know a lot of things we usually brush away things which mean so much for the business that we do. It was very nice of you to share these very important thoughts.
Thanks a ton,
March 22nd, 2010 at 3:50 am
Good one…need to implement, everyone ignores these vital aspects and expect to close the sale and new customer.
March 22nd, 2010 at 6:48 am
Great advice that should be often repeated.
You should also include a 10th … “if.” It always implies it’s opposite, “if not.” “When” is a definite and decision-boosting alternative. Your opening paragraph, for example, would be even stronger using this substitute: ” you want to increase your sales, here are nine words you should avoid …”
Cheers
March 22nd, 2010 at 12:57 pm
Excellent words of wisdom. Not using these words keeps us from getting our feet stuck in our mouths. I’m going to tweet this to my followers.
March 22nd, 2010 at 4:30 pm
So very, very true. There is so much psychology in sales, and this proves it! Thanks for sharing!
March 23rd, 2010 at 3:15 am
I agree in principle with everything you say, however I’m on the fence with ‘profanity’ in certain situations. While I would never be the first to use any profanity, I have found that it can be appropriate if you a mirroring the customer. For example, I used to deal with an IT Manager at a haulage company who swore all the time. He warmed to me much faster when I started to drop the occasional swear word myself; it made HIM more comfortable with our relationship.
March 23rd, 2010 at 6:31 am
Your article is right on target. Words are communication tools…we would not use a screw-driver to change a tire and the wrong words can prevent success in sales or customer satisfaction also. Your advise is not only for sales, but for any one who must communicate with a customer or potential customer. And I can not leave without asking Adam to reconsider his position on profanity. When we lower ourselves to meet anothers position we loose a “teaching opportunity” or said another way instead of the porfanity user setting the lower standard for us to emulate, we should set the higher standard for them to emulate. Just a suggestion. Profanity is viewed as lacking in communication skills. There are other words to use to bring a higher level of understanding and sets an example that no one is ashamed of.
April 5th, 2010 at 1:59 pm
Thanks for putting it all in a nutshell! I feel affirmed to see that I have been doing what you suggest - though I had to learn it the hard way. Would have been great to start my career with these tips.
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